>>22615
nobody holds my reigns anymore. i am one step in the grave now. i could live like this for the rest of my life. the great thing about open source projects is that you don't have to worry about what happens to it once you're gone. i can't say the same for my other projects. i have a bit of a cult of personality on my forum and nobody really shares the same vision as i do, which has reared it from a community of a few dozen to a few thousand. if i disappeared, it would undoubtedly die and split apart into a bunch of different communities.
i'll admit this month i have been very depressed. i don't talk about personal affects very often because i'm more comfortable being seen as an emotionless psychopath, but for years i have known this young lady and i've spent about a quarter of my life talking to her online as on-and-off friends and even romantic partners in the last 2 years. she is the smartest person i've ever met and i feel truly humbled when i speak to her. she joined the navy as a nuclear engineer and is being assigned an aircraft carrier shortly. i've stopped talking to her because she is emotionally abusive, but i still love her, and i've loved her for years. i'm pretty sure she loves me, but she's so wretched when she wants to be. i cannot allow our arguments to affect me and distract me.
when i decided to stop talking to her i felt fine. it was the right decision and i know it is. but weeks later it's finally struck me, like a wound that doesn't hurt until you see it. with all the drama with isis and the chinese maritime conflicts i worry that in the next decade her vessel will be put to use. a brain full of nuclear secrets would be a valuable asset to the red chinese and they would undoubtedly torture her. isis uses female pows as rape toys and wive, or they just decapitate them. i worry about her and every time i hear something about terrorism or the military i start worrying. she's basically the closest i've ever been with a person.
even if i could stop worrying, the double edge is that by rejecting her i am now in a position where i know i will never find a replacement. i cannot replace someone i've known for 5 years, someone who is extremely attractive and physically and mentally fit. i can only find substitutes, and i think i'd rather be alone than with a second option. i'd rather just work.


