So, I watched Tom's response to the allegations...
I note that Tom's video is very reminiscent of William Control's video, down to the "good girl" line:
I personally have mixed feelings about Tom's response to the allegations. I do think Tom has redeemed himself with regards to some of the allegations, but IMO Tom has not adequately addressed the elephant in the room: making video after video degrading others for leading degenerate lives while pretending to be trad-adjacent himself. Tom did this in order to cater to and cultivate an audience with conservative values, who wanted to see these lifestyles denounced and condemned.
I think Tom has convincingly proven that his main accuser did consent to being filmed during sex, that she herself had requested he make videos of them having sex and that she assisted him with the making of these videos. I think Tom has redeemed himself as far as these accusations are concerned.
However, Tom is still not addressing the point about her asking him for copies of these videos and him refusing to share the videos with her. Even if I give Tom the benefit of the doubt and believe him about not wanting to share the sex videos due to an apparently recent leak at the time, I don't think Tom can claim sole ownership of videos that were jointly made without this coming across as suspicious and implicitly controlling. I don't think Tom has adequately redeemed himself on this point. It takes two to tango, and it took two to make these videos.
As for the "aggressive penetration to the point of bleeding" accusation:
Tom is gonna catch menstrual blood Hepatitis C just like Van der Waard, then he'll make a video like Van der Waard crying about it, insisting :
"But how did I ever pozzed with HepC? I don't do drugs! I don't share needles! How the fuck is that even possible?!". Because you poke menstruating women who are already infected, you stupid fuck. You can catch Hepatitis C from menstrual blood too. Maybe learn a thing or two about STDs before these bleeding women unprotected. "Never goon, never troon", but if you're gonna be promiscuous at least have the baseline consideration for yourself and your partner to roll on a fucking condom, Tom. Later in the video Tom agrees not to use a condom simply at the request of a woman he has just met, he doesn't even ask her to get STD tested first, so it's not like Tom cares about catching STDs or passing them along.
At the end of the day, this "Sacramento" woman was clearly a BDSM gooner and a coomer, but the fact is that the trad-LARPing Tom still agreed to have sex with the type "BPD hoe" that he will usually insist is beneath him. He might have absolved himself of (some) of the allegations, but I don't think Tom has absolved himself of being a moral hypocrite. If you watch the William Control video (that Tom's own video is modelled on), you will see that William Control was much more forthcoming about cheating on his wife with his groupies, admitting she had no idea about his extramarital affairs. Tom effectively cheated on his audience, misleading them into believing he was someone other than he really is, someone who shared their traditional values when it comes to sexual lifestyles.
"Sacramento" asked Tom for what she wanted (she wanted rough sex or what she referred to as "rape"-like sex), and Tom delivered, at least up to a point based on what he personally felt comfortable doing. However, it was clear they weren't sexually compatible from the start. Tom admitted that he personally doesn't even really like BDSM sex (
"I was not interested in tying her up"), that he tried to have vanilla regular sex with her (
"I was being more slow and sensual"), but still agreed to have rough sex with her. Pity-fucking someone you're not really into and whose sexual values do not even align with yours, that is still on you, Tom.
If you're gonna do the trad-LARP for your conservative audience, get an actual tradwife and actually be monogamous with her. If you you're not that, at least honest about whom you actually are. These wanna-conservative Youtubers like Tom who want to court a more trad audience, they need to either genuinely stop being degenerates and settle down for the sake of their careers, or just be honest about being mansluts with multiple groupies and a large body count, there is no in-between that's gonna work in this hyperpolarized world.
To give another example: the problem with Caleb Hammer is not him being a bisexual capitalist, there are plenty of gay capitalists. It's that he's downplaying his bisexuality for the sake of his conservative audience, while misleading his girlfriends into thinking they're dating an ex-gay now supposedly superstraight man. It's the hypocrisy and dishonesty, the LARPing, that is the problem.