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Do you want to have kids?

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Personally, I wouldn’t. The idea of having a child with a severe disability like very low functioning autism is something I couldn't mentally or emotionally handle. I know it’s taboo to admit, but if my kid couldn't ever live independently, talk to me normally, have friends, get a job, or experience anything close to a normal life, I wouldn’t feel like I had the same experience of parenthood that most people do.


People always say "you’ll love them anyway" but I don’t think it’s fair to bring a life into this world if the potential outcome is that level of suffering or dependence. That's not the kind of parent I want to be, and I don't think everyone should have kids if they’re not willing to take on that risk.

Curious to what others think. Would you still want kids knowing there’s a chance you might never really connect with them in a typical way? Or is that a risk you think is worth it?
 
If I would have known how awful society would have become in the last decade, and how bleak this world turned out to be... I probably wouldn't have had kids.

But once you open Pandora's box it's not exactly like you can close it lol.

I knocked up a girl when I was 16 and my parents were way too old school Catholic to even DISCUSS abortion, so me and my first wife were married and had a kid when we were still in high school.

I definitely regret being married (and being married again, and hopefully I won't regret this one) but I don't regret having my kids because at least I raised them in a way to where they got the best parts of me and the best parts of their mother. They are critical and independent thinkers, and all three of them are in a really good spot. That's really all you can ask for in this horrible year of our lord, 2025.
 
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If I would have known how awful society would have become in the last decade, and how bleak this world turned out to be... I probably wouldn't have had kids.

But once you open Pandora's box it's not exactly like you can close it lol.

I knocked up a girl when I was 16 and my parents were way too old school Catholic to even DISCUSS abortion, so me and my first wife were married and had a kid when we were still in high school.

I definitely regret being married (and being married again, and hopefully I won't regret this one) but I don't regret having my kids because at least I raised them in a way to where they got the best parts of me and the best parts of their mother. They are critical and independent thinkers, and all three of them are in a really good spot. That's really all you can ask for in this horrible year of our lord, 2025.
I hope that we didn't see any of the best parts of you here, otherwise I don't have hopes for your kids
 
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