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Do you want to have kids?

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Personally, I wouldn’t. The idea of having a child with a severe disability like very low functioning autism is something I couldn't mentally or emotionally handle. I know it’s taboo to admit, but if my kid couldn't ever live independently, talk to me normally, have friends, get a job, or experience anything close to a normal life, I wouldn’t feel like I had the same experience of parenthood that most people do.


People always say "you’ll love them anyway" but I don’t think it’s fair to bring a life into this world if the potential outcome is that level of suffering or dependence. That's not the kind of parent I want to be, and I don't think everyone should have kids if they’re not willing to take on that risk.

Curious to what others think. Would you still want kids knowing there’s a chance you might never really connect with them in a typical way? Or is that a risk you think is worth it?
 
Depends... I have an experience of raising a kid from them infant days up to teenage years so it's kind of given that I have went through the "dad school" in a way. Thanks to my young brother.
But overall... I dont know anymore. I still strive to reach this point in life but the further I go and live on the worse things get. So I don't feel like I have certianty in anything except that I would've done my best to make my child's life balanced and setting up the life goals and purpose prior to adult life.
 
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