The right wants you to think they aren't heaving children because they refuse to adult and just want to party all the time, but when you read their own answers and reasons, a very sobering picture emerges.
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Some of the reasons given:
- They've already had a care-giving experience (taking care of siblings or dying/disabled relatives) and were overwhelmed
- For women: Awareness of the physical dangers of being pregant/going through labour (tokophobia)
- Awareness of (mental) illness having a genetic component; the fear of passing on mental or physical disabilities
- Lack of support networks/distrust of others
- Fear that having children will negatively impact their relationship with their S.O.
What these stories mostly have in common is the lack of control that they feel over themselves, others and their future. They don't want to have a child unless a positive outcome is guaranteed, unless they know 100% for sure that their child is going to be disease-free, mental illness-free and taken care of by a trustworthy and reliable community. The mere possibility of a negative outcome is enough for them to throw the towel and be like, "Naw, forget it". They think there is too much risk involved and don't want to gamble with any level of uncertainty. This feeling of uncertainty and lack of control is expressed through a general distrust of others, including their own partners and even themselves. They don't trust other people to do what's right or to right a wrong if something goes wrong.
As you can see, it has nothing to do with wanting to party or refusing to adult. Many feel that, given their circumstances, abstaining from children is the most responsible, adult thing to do.
I also found this comment:
When both parents and grandparents are overwhelmed by child-rearing, you know this is not an environment to have children in.
Child-Free People Are Sharing The Exact Moments That Made Them Reconsider Having Children, And It's Incredibly Eye-Opening
"A child would always have to come first, and I want to put me first. There are too many things I want the freedom to try in this lifetime."
Some of the reasons given:
- They've already had a care-giving experience (taking care of siblings or dying/disabled relatives) and were overwhelmed
- For women: Awareness of the physical dangers of being pregant/going through labour (tokophobia)
- Awareness of (mental) illness having a genetic component; the fear of passing on mental or physical disabilities
- Lack of support networks/distrust of others
- Fear that having children will negatively impact their relationship with their S.O.
What these stories mostly have in common is the lack of control that they feel over themselves, others and their future. They don't want to have a child unless a positive outcome is guaranteed, unless they know 100% for sure that their child is going to be disease-free, mental illness-free and taken care of by a trustworthy and reliable community. The mere possibility of a negative outcome is enough for them to throw the towel and be like, "Naw, forget it". They think there is too much risk involved and don't want to gamble with any level of uncertainty. This feeling of uncertainty and lack of control is expressed through a general distrust of others, including their own partners and even themselves. They don't trust other people to do what's right or to right a wrong if something goes wrong.
As you can see, it has nothing to do with wanting to party or refusing to adult. Many feel that, given their circumstances, abstaining from children is the most responsible, adult thing to do.
I also found this comment:
When both parents and grandparents are overwhelmed by child-rearing, you know this is not an environment to have children in.
