I took a human sexuality class once, and a lot of what the instructor taught, especially about women, was just wrong. On exams, the only way to do well was to ignore reality and answer based on whatever inaccurate framework we were told to memorize. You weren't being tested on truth, you were being tested on whether you could repeat the approved answer.
Being honest feels a lot like that. You can give the truthful answer and still "fail," because the system isn't actually rewarding truth at all, it's just about rewarding compliance with whatever answer is expected in that moment.
This is what navigating social expectations feels like for autistic people. You're constantly second-guessing. Last time he said the "right" answer was that women donβt masturbate, but now that heβs asking again, is he expecting the opposite? Is this a trick? Which version does he want right now? And then later, if you repeat the answer you were taught was "correct," you're accused of lying or being manipulative, even though telling the actual truth earlier would've gotten you punished for being "wrong."