Do you want to have kids?

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Personally, I wouldn’t. The idea of having a child with a severe disability like very low functioning autism is something I couldn't mentally or emotionally handle. I know it’s taboo to admit, but if my kid couldn't ever live independently, talk to me normally, have friends, get a job, or experience anything close to a normal life, I wouldn’t feel like I had the same experience of parenthood that most people do.


People always say "you’ll love them anyway" but I don’t think it’s fair to bring a life into this world if the potential outcome is that level of suffering or dependence. That's not the kind of parent I want to be, and I don't think everyone should have kids if they’re not willing to take on that risk.

Curious to what others think. Would you still want kids knowing there’s a chance you might never really connect with them in a typical way? Or is that a risk you think is worth it?

 

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I hate my parents so obviously I don’t have that connection (Mostly their fault), but I’m ultimately happy I’m alive. Even if my kid couldn’t connect with me, I’d still want to give them that chance to ultimately find a way to be happy.

That being said though I would never have children precisely because of how badly my parents fucked me up, I heard the mentally unstable shouldn’t own dogs, I imagine that’d extend to children.

 

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Personally, I wouldn’t. The idea of having a child with a severe disability like very low functioning autism is something I couldn't mentally or emotionally handle. I know it’s taboo to admit, but if my kid couldn't ever live independently, talk to me normally, have friends, get a job, or experience anything close to a normal life, I wouldn’t feel like I had the same experience of parenthood that most people do.


People always say "you’ll love them anyway" but I don’t think it’s fair to bring a life into this world if the potential outcome is that level of suffering or dependence. That's not the kind of parent I want to be, and I don't think everyone should have kids if they’re not willing to take on that risk.

Curious to what others think. Would you still want kids knowing there’s a chance you might never really connect with them in a typical way? Or is that a risk you think is worth it?

I don't understand why so many kids in our latest generation are coming out half a retard with autism, but I suspect that it has to do with misdiagnosis and being raised by social media. Hear me out:

Do we have created an entire generation of people who have had a tablet in their hands since they were able to hold one. Everything that they have done has been done online, of course they have no idea how to read people or pick up social cues or start normal human interaction. We've beaten it into their head for their entire life that they can just get online and do it that way.

And as for misdiagnosis it seems to change every 10 years or so. '80s babies like me ALL had ADD or ADHD. Everybody born in the '90s was diagnosed bipolar. People born in the 00's all have autism or are trannies.

And to me that speaks volumes about internet access by age. Someone like me, the internet was a boutique thing nobody cared about. The general consensus was "computers are for DORKS, fag" right before you punched somebody in the arm for playing Oregon trail on one. Even when we could get online when I was in high school it was on a dial-up modem and everything took forever to load so we didn't care. Imagine this picture:

Spoiler: It's a woman with her tits out

Taking 30 minutes to download and that's literally all you had to beat your meat to, unless your old man was cool and bought you skin mags. Yeah it was the dark ages, but it was a simpler time.

High-speed internet and smartphones didn't start picking up traction till about 2005. That was the year I was able to legally drink. Now you look at my generation what was always being diagnosed? ADHD, because we were always being fucking annoying because none of us were on the internet lol. We hung out at the mall and hassled people and just generally made ourselves a nuisance anywhere we loitered.

Now you knock 10 years off and have a kid grow up with slow internet and it becomes mainstream right as they're hitting puberty. Those people are overly diagnosed as bipolar because they were raised as children normally, but right as their emotions were ramping up because of puberty... They were getting into fights online so they were having insane mood swings.

As for so many people being on the spectrum, I sincerely think that everybody being diagnosed with that in the past 10 or 15 years is precisely because there are people turning 20 this year who were literally born into a world with high-speed internet access. They literally have nothing else to make the comparison to. They never experienced pre 9/11 America, which is something that I feel so bad for people who didn't get a taste of that.

So I guess to answer your question in a very long-winded way (sorry about the rant) I wouldn't worry about my kids having autism, because I think it's just the overdiagnosed mental illness du jour. I think the percentage of people who actually have autism that have been diagnosed with it is about 5%

It's just like the transgender thing. Maybe one out of every 500 or 1,000 are really transgender, the rest are just mentally ill people or people doing it for clout or because it's the cosmopolitan and cool thing to do.

So yeah... I'd be more scared of my kid coming out a cripple or having leukemia or something more than being "autistic" because I think that being autistic is just a cover and a crutch for what the real problem is: lazy parenting that led to a crippling social media addiction.

 

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I hate my parents so obviously I don’t have that connection (Mostly their fault), but I’m ultimately happy I’m alive. Even if my kid couldn’t connect with me, I’d still want to give them that chance to ultimately find a way to be happy.

That's true. I mean you never know what's going to happen your kid could get shot tomorrow, life isn't guaranteed. So even if your kid came out healthy he could still die (which I think is tremendously worse than him being crippled or retarded or anything)

So you're always going to roll the dice when you have kids.

That being said though I would never have children precisely because of how badly my parents fucked me up, I heard the mentally unstable shouldn’t own dogs, I imagine that’d extend to children.

Now see the weird thing is, in my experience, almost everyone I knew that had a bad childhood or were abused that have kids are EXTREMELY good to their kids. I was probably the last generation of kids where getting the fuck beaten out of you by your old man was considered normalcy, but I see a lot of my friends who are around 40 and they all have kids that are teenagers to early twenties who are great kids because their parents chose to raise them completely different than their parents did.

 

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yes, but i would never want to be a parent which is why i deposit in the sperm bank 2-3 a week and have for years

 

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yes, but i would never want to be a parent which is why i deposit in the sperm bank 2-3 a week and have for years

Think of all the bull dyke couples that have had kids thanks to you. Thank you for your service.