So how does being anti-social affect this? How does being anti-social show the quality of one's own genetic material?
Because anti-social is kind of a modern moralfag label, not the trait being selected for. What actually mattered evolutionarily wasn't whether someone followed social norms, it was dominance, threat potential, and the ability to take and hold resources from other people. In a lot of historical environments, those traits look antisocial and immoral from today's perspective, violence, intimidation, rule breaking, but they were strong signals of power. Power translated into protection, resources, and most importantly, sexual access, which is how genes get replicated.
It's not that being antisocial itself proves good genes, it's that traits correlated with antisocial behavior (physical strength, fearlessness, willingness to violate norms, low inhibition, high assertiveness) were reliable cues that a man could win most conflicts and impose his will. Those men reproduced more regardless of whether they were good community members. Modern society penalizes those traits, but sexual attraction didn't evolve for modern society, it evolved in environments where survival and reproduction often favored the guy who was an extremely evil asshole.
1. Thats likely because most of them died in wars started by those dominant and aggressive men. 2. Oftentimes the victims of wars, tragedies, and disasters are men.
3. I'd hazard to guest that 50% or more of these women were victims of rape.
None of that actually contradicts my claim tho, it actually kind of reinforces it.
Yes, a lot of men died in wars. That's why reproduction skewed so hard toward a small subset of men. High male mortality and polygyny and coercive power means fewer men passing on genes, not more. The dominant/aggressive men were often the ones starting and surviving those conflicts, and then monopolizing access to pussy afterward. Evolution doesn't care that other men died, that's exactly how variance in male reproductive success gets extreme.
I'd hazard to guest that 50% or more of these women were victims of rape.
Again, sexual selection isn't a moral process. If rape led to offspring, those genes still entered the pool. Saying "many women were rape victims" is true, but guess what? It still results in the same outcome, a minority of powerful men fathering a disproportionate number of children. That's how reproduction actually worked for most of human history.
You have to understand, human sexuality does not care about morality, what's good for society, the welfare of women, or even what's good for humanity in general. It just cares about spreading copies of your genes into the next generation as much as possible. No matter what.